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My #TransGEM this week was finally joining the TillyVerse discord server and chatting with some of you lovely people in real time. You’ve all been fun and supportive.

There’s nothing quite like feeling like you’re part of a community. Fedi was my first foray into #trans community and it’s wonderful, but async.

The TillyVerse was immediately welcoming and supportive. I feel more confident in my femininity today. Thank you to all of my new friends! And thank you @tillybridges for bringing us all together.

Ooh, it's Monday, time for a Trans GEM (Gender Euphoria Moment).

Mine today comes from just a few minutes ago. On Discord. I was greeting my friends in our little community, welcoming the day and checking in.

And the sheer unadulterated joy, the laughter, and deep pleasure I experienced...may I say it? The euphoria? Was in realising these are my people.

That being trans has brought me this incredible group of friends (many of whom are not on that server, to be clear - some of them are reading this), whom I trust and rely on in a way I've never felt before.

When I transitioned, it was alone. I had a couple of cis women who stuck by me, but that was it. I knew other trans people only to say hi in the gender clinic. Internet was only recently a thing.

And the clinic made sure we stayed alone. We were strongly advised *NOT* to spend time around other trans people, lest it threaten our ability to be stealth.

So to now be surrounded on all sides by a massive wall of friends, any of whom I can count on to have my back if things go sideways...some days it just hits a lot harder.

I genuinely love you all. Yes, even you in the back there. I see you.

So, my beauties and handsomes and pulchritudinous enbies, and everyone else who thinks of themselves as trans in some way. It's Monday, and that's the day we specially pick to post to the hashtags #TransGEM and #GEM.

TransGEM is for your Trans-related Gender Euphoria Moments: the happy things that you experienced this past week from your gender.

It can be as small as "I got ma'amed by the cashier at my bank!" or "my chest hair started growing in!" or "I totally confused someone who was trying to guess my gender today!" It could be huge. Whatever made you happy.

The #GEM hashtag is specifically for everyone who isn't trans, or doesn't vibe with the trans label. So yes, you cis people, this one deliberately includes you. So think about it. What moments did you experience this week that made you feel good about your gender?

Women: did you get unusually listened to in business meetings by men? Or got a nice compliment from a stranger that made you feel good? Or just felt really pretty one day, or smart, or whatever makes you happy about being a woman?

Men: did you have a great workout and felt joy in your body? Did someone call you handsome and it felt good? Get your beard trimmed by a pro, feeling like you look your best?

Share your joy, my friends. Show everyone that cis people experience gender euphoria too, and that trans people's lives have regular moments of sheer happiness just from being ourselves.

My #TransGEM this week is the following Gender Euphoria Moment:

I spent Saturday afternoon at a queer swim event put on by the city. We had a great turnout, over 50 people, from kids to seniors, of all sorts of queer folk. Lots of trans people of various types, top surgery scars, people in their first femme bathing suit, just euphoria all around me. I looked at the bodies of cis women around me, and realised I look more like them than I thought. And I felt beautiful in my bathing suit, despite being fat and old*.

*"Despite" because conventional standards say being old and fat are marks *against* being attractive. I am both, and I do no harm to myself in saying so: these are neutral adjectives. They describe me. They don't hurt me. So yes, I feel beautiful *despite* that society wants me to believe I can't be.

Alright, my loves, it's time for another #TransGEM day!

Share your Trans Gender Euphoria Moments under the hashtag #TransGEM, or if you're not trans/non-binary/two-spirit, under the hashtag #GEM.

Then follow the hashtags and enjoy the sweet, sweet joy that rolls in.

My GEM for this week is from last Thursday, when I stood at a Women of the Year awards ceremony to cheer for my friend who won in my category. She beat me, sure, but she's pretty amazing and I'm happy. But I, an out trans woman, was nominated for Woman of the Year in my city.

Come a long, long way in 33 years.

last week I found out my psychiatrist refers to me with she/her in her notes! most people use he/him and that's fine, because that's how I look. but reading this gave me so much joy, I was surprised.

:blobhaj_heartslove:

about this time last year, I had seen someone's observation of the biggest differences between how men relate to other men, and how women relate to other women. among them was that women will compliment one another to make them feel included, while men will construct little moments where the other can fit in seamlessly.

about a week later, I was at a concert wearing a "protect trans kids" tee under a pretty-but-not-particularly-femme button-down shirt. before the show started, a woman in the row in front of me complimented me on my appearance. while this caught me off guard sightly, I accepted the compliment, and we talked briefly until the music started playing.

remembering what I had read the week before, I realised that this was the first time a woman had related to me as she would another.

to be clear, "woman" is not part of my identity. but this kind of interaction filled me with joy nonetheless: I had been seen (and treated) as not-a-man by a complete stranger.

and I rode that high all night.

I made the suggestion of #TransGEM and #GEM yesterday for a very good set of reasons, which i would like to make explicit.

1. I want trans people (meaning in this case "anyone not vibing with their canonical sex") to be seen as people seeking joy, rather than people seeking relief from misery. While i think the latter can be a common initial motivation, it frequently changes to joy-seeking once we discover what gender euphoria is.

2. I want cis people to see how ubiquitous and idiosyncratic trans expressions of gender euphoria are. How small they can be, and how large.

3. I want trans people who are hiding bc they don't see themselves as refugees from misery, to know they are as valid as any other trans person.

4. I want cis people to begin to recognise gender euphoria they.experience, so they can relate to us better.

5. I want everyone to see that trans lives, when supported and and being given space to just be, can be places of joy, so that families will no longer feel so much grief and/or fear when their trans loved ones reveal themselves.

So i strongly encourage my fellow trans and nonbinary and gendered-or-not-in-other-ways people to post to the hashtag. I encourage even more strongly that cis people follow it, and maybe even boost those that speak to you so your other cis friends will see them.

We know from long human history that the other is easy to demonize. That the best counter to this is humanization of that other. That is the goal of sharing our GEMs with each other.

So, #LoveOfMyLife is cis "het" - well, "het", not het.

Her: "I am afraid of realizing, one day, I need something else" (than what I, Imdat Celeste, can provide in a romantic relationship)
Me: "Please don't take this the wrong way, but that's something that you should've realized some 2.5 years ago, because... "
her: "... because?"
Me: "Do you really think you could have a cis het man as partner? Do you really think you could live together with a cis het man - after these >3 years of transition that we both went through together?"
Her: "😳 - oh fuck, you're right, no way!!"
Me: "..."

This weekend I did my hair (quite a process!) and it looks good.

Reminds me of being in a pub with a new person who was chatting me up, when I rearranged my hair and they did a double-take "Woah, you look like a totally different person!" and were too confused to keep flirting (a good move in this case).

#GEM
#GenderEuphoriaMonday
#Trans #TransJoy #Nonbinary #NonbinaryJoy

(See wargamers.social/@oldladyplays )

Mastodon WargamersCait the Proud Trans Woman (@oldladyplays@wargamers.social)I have a new idea, and I want your help to spread it. We are in need of something positive for our community. Something reminding us of what makes us who we are. It's for tomorrow, really, but I want us to prep tonight so we're ready for it tomorrow. Here's your prep work: think of something in your weekend that gave you gender euphoria. Anything. Whatever made you glad you are who you are, whatever gender or genders or lack of gender you are. Now, initially, I'm thinking of calling this #TransGEM , for Trans Gender Euphoria Mondays. But if it catches on, I want there to be a bigger version of it, just called #GEM, which has room for anyone to post their Gender Euphoria Moments, whatever and whenever their (lack of) gender(s) brought them. But let's build the smaller version first, get people in the habit. Can be something tiny. "I saw her in the mirror today for a moment." "I found my first facial hair Saturday morning on my way to shul." "Someone didn't know how to gender me yesterday!" Could be something huge. Whatever. Just spread your joy, once a week. We aren't defined by our suffering. Let us define ourselves by our joy. Let them know us for that, if nothing else. Let us all see what a huge range of experiences can bring this kind of joy to a huge range of people. Boosts encouraged. Translation and adoption by other language communities too!

I have a new idea, and I want your help to spread it. We are in need of something positive for our community. Something reminding us of what makes us who we are.

It's for tomorrow, really, but I want us to prep tonight so we're ready for it tomorrow.

Here's your prep work: think of something in your weekend that gave you gender euphoria. Anything. Whatever made you glad you are who you are, whatever gender or genders or lack of gender you are.

Now, initially, I'm thinking of calling this #TransGEM , for Trans Gender Euphoria Mondays. But if it catches on, I want there to be a bigger version of it, just called #GEM, which has room for anyone to post their Gender Euphoria Moments, whatever and whenever their (lack of) gender(s) brought them. But let's build the smaller version first, get people in the habit.

Can be something tiny. "I saw her in the mirror today for a moment."

"I found my first facial hair Saturday morning on my way to shul."

"Someone didn't know how to gender me yesterday!"

Could be something huge. Whatever. Just spread your joy, once a week.

We aren't defined by our suffering. Let us define ourselves by our joy. Let them know us for that, if nothing else. Let us all see what a huge range of experiences can bring this kind of joy to a huge range of people.

Boosts encouraged. Translation and adoption by other language communities too!